Monday, January 17, 2011

Empowering Fathers: Look whos playing..

Anak-anak adalah rezeki, juga ujian.Anak-anak daei kadangkala boleh menjadi pendokong daawah, adakalanya juga mereka bisa menjadi fitnah kepada daawah ibu bapa mereka. Sememangnya iman tidak bisa diwarisi. Hatta Nabi Nuh dan Lut pun diuji dengan anak-anak yang akhirnya tidak mewarisi daawah ayahanda tercinta. Pelbagai spekulasi boleh dibuat untuk menggariskan kegagalan anak untuk mewarisi langkah ibu bapa.

Saya masih sangat setahun jagung dalam membesarkan seorang anak. Tidak banyak perkongsian pengalaman yang boleh dibuat. Namun, hasil perbincangan dengan ibu bapa yang anaknya mengikuti jalan daawah, juga ibu bapa yang diuji dengan ujian yang tidak ingin mereka lalui, juga dengan anak-anak yang akhirnya ikut di jalan daawah ini, kesimpulan kasar yang dapat dibuat adalah - segalanya bertitik tolak dari tindakan/cara/tarbiyyah ibu bapa itu sendiri.

Adalah sangat penting untuk memahami dan mendalami psikologi kanak-kanak. Saya bukan lah seorang ahli psikologi. Namun, seorang kanak-kanak pasti bosan jika diulit kesana kemari, dan dimarahi bila berlaku nakal (kesan dari kebosanan mereka). Mereka yang mempunyai tenaga yang tiada penghujungnya pasti tidak keruan bila disuruh duduk sahaja, dan diam. Seperti di dalam penjara! Jika seterusnya fenomena ini tidak dijelaskan dan dibiarkan berlarutan, tidak mustahil kanak-kanak ini akhirnya membenci usrah.

Kadang kala kita tiada pilihan untuk menentukan tempat usrah dan juga tempat program. Tambahan pula jika ibu bapa itu adalah ativis daawah belia dan mahasiswa. Mahasiswa dan belia dengan naluri mereka sering beraktiviti di dalam banggunan empat dinding yang memerlukan penumpuan yang maximum dan kurang sesuai untuk kanak-kanak yang merasakan empat dinding itu membantutkan pemikiran mereka.

Antara resolusi kami untuk mendepani masalah ini adalah dengan berkongsi tanggungjawab. Jika ummi perlu beri pengisian, dan tumpuan terutama dengan adik-adik, abi jika lapang akan membuat aktiviti bersama Amir. Selalunya apa yang disukai Amir. Kami masih terus belajar. Namun untuk setakat ini, cara ini agak berkesan untuk memastikan kelancaran program, juga supaya Amir tidak terlalu tantrum. Akhirnya tatapan gambar Amir yang sedang seronok bermain bersama tuan haji abi semetara ummi sedang sibuk dengan daurah. :)

Friday, January 14, 2011

Half the sky...


I was in Borders Orchard Rd, Singapore searching for my always wanted Quantitative Interpretation book when I came across this book. The title just moved me. Half the sky; how to change the world. I picked it up, flipped through and immidiately went to the cashier and pay. When i started reading it, I was moved since the first story is about cambodian girl trafficked and sent to brothels in Kuala Lumpur.
I read every word, from page to page, and can't wait to know what's the next story. The internet has talked about it, and Nick has set up a webpage for this book. And it reminds me to one of the main objectives when we conduct all of our daawah programmes or even organise any of the wasail tarbiyyah...
Others might dessiminate knowledge, but we motivate you to change. CHANGE is a big word. Especially when it comes from jahiliah to islam. This book illustrate how powerful women is to be catalyst if not main mechanism of change.
And all these changes were made possible only by AL-FAHMU. Hassan Al Banna outlined al fahmu as the first pillar in his arkanul baiah. In Chapter 1:Iman of Maudidi's famous book "Let us be Muslim" he outlined the essential of knowledge for being a Muslim as the first subtopic of that chapter. In Nick's half the sky, he showed statistics of what happen to the economy, and social well being if we send women to school. To stress more on its importance, Allah the al-rahman reveal IQRA as the first ayah and surah of the Quran.
Khadijah: First to understand and change.
Khadijah was the first women to understand, and she has became the backbone of what islam that we see today, as a saying goes " Islam did not spread without the Ali's sword and Khadijah's wealth". When Islam came under mounting pressure from its enemies, Khadijah sacrificed her comforts, her wealth and her home for it; and now it would appear that she sacrificed her life too, in the way of Islam. Without a doubt, if she had lived in her palatial house in Makkah, surrounded by her maid-servants, she might have lived for many more years.
But she preferred to stand by her husband and his clan, and to share the hardships of life with them. During the siege, she had to endure not only the pangs of hunger and thirst but also the extremes of heat in summer and cold in winter; yet she never complained to her husband about them. Whether times were good or bad, whether she had plenty or she had nothing, she was always cheerful. Austerity and privation never soured her. It was this temperament that was an unfailing source of comfort, courage and strength for her husband during the blackest and trying moments of his life.(islamicoccasions.com)
Half of Malaysian population now is women. Surely we cannot neglect women in their role to mould the society. They are staffs that contribute to half of the country's wealth. They are the GMs and VPs of big organisations that make big decisions and drive the country towards its excellence now. They are the mothers who gave births to a lot more other leaders. They are the teachers that teaches our children every day. They are the students that filled more than half of Malaysian universities. Well now they are something.
Let us women who understands islam, spread the understanding to other women around us. Let us play our role. And let us aspire to be the next Khadijah, and hold up half the sky....